Being Able to Say "No"

For massage therapists especially, one very difficult challenge seems to be the ability to say “no” to a given situation if we need to. We are such giving people that it can be extremely difficult for us to tell anyone that we cannot accommodate their request. Many of us would almost rather not practice than have to do that, but the unfortunate reality is that we have to draw boundaries in and around various parts of our lives and keep those boundaries intact. Otherwise, we risk overextending ourselves and burning out. There are many situations that may call for a therapist to say “no.” The following are some common potential situations therapists may run into as well as ways to help therapists find out if they are in such situations and how best to say “no” while still being professional.

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Why Relaxation Massage Is Being Left Behind and Left Out -- Part 1

In the next two posts, I would like to address an issue that I’ve been seeing in the massage and bodywork community. That is, the trend of emphasizing medically oriented massage techniques almost to the exclusion of relaxation massage. The next post will talk more about this trend and how it presents in the industry as a whole. In this first post, though, I’ll begin by telling a story of my own to illustrate how it can affect the lives and practices of individual therapists. It has taken a lot of time and consideration to thoughtfully develop these posts, and I hope that others may benefit from reading my story and my insights.

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How Long Should I Take Getting Up From My Massage?

I recently answered an excellent clarification question on Quora:  “When massage therapists complete a massage and say, ‘Take your time getting up,’ do they mean five minutes, or fifteen?” For lots of clients, this is an area of uncertainty. Everyone wants to enjoy the luxurious feeling of a limber, relaxed body after a great massage, but no one wants to be discourteous to their therapist and make them run behind by spending too much time on the table. So what is the proper etiquette to follow once you’ve finished a massage session? Read my response to find out!

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To Tip or Not to Tip?

I'll never forget my first massage. I had experienced a particularly trying finals week during my last semester of senior year at college and my dear friends all decided to chip in and purchase a 30-minute massage for me with the local massage therapist. I was quite thrilled, having never had a full body massage before and I was not disappointed by the massage itself. By the time I walked out of the therapist's office, I was on cloud nine. One thing did strike me as odd, though, as I shook her hand and thanked her for the delightful massage she had just given me. There was a certain hesitancy there, as though she were expecting something.

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Making Your Yelp Review Count (Especially if You Love Your Small Businesses)

This weekend I was reviewing some of my business and marketing materials when I made a surprising – and, to me, disconcerting – discovery. I have a Yelp business page and had several five-star reviews for my services from happy clients. You can imagine my astonishment, then, when I saw that my page showed that it had only one review. What? Impossible! Sure enough, only one review was listed. The other ones, I discovered, had been placed in the "not currently recommended" section of my Yelp page. 

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